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To myself in the blog I place only those posts of Marina Komissarova (Evolution) which I consider well very basic, important.

They help to see what is usually hidden from eyes, especially from a subjective view, especially at a bad reflection, the unsteady locus and a hungry self-assessment. If you & #8212; the person mature and integral, you need no crowns, caps, and you have no bugs. You accurately bypass others borders and easily protect the. But if you lack a maturity and integrity, your desires constantly are torn on others territories, all the time something is necessary to you from people that they do not want to give you, generally their recognition. They do not want to give, you want to receive and somehow to take away, your mentality invents different ways, including crowns and caps.

& #8212; & #171; Giant and лилипуты» & #8212; & #171; ќколпачивание»

At first she thought that he is Stesyasha and the Silly fellow, wrote him three letters with thanks and offers of new meetings. And he is silent. He not in forces to cross through the complexes, he needs to be helped.

Unfortunately, does not happen so that the foolish cap is put on a figure and it is left alone. No! The foolish cap is put on in order that to attack this figure. Otherwise would not be to put on needs a cap. You just would decide that you are not necessary to the person, are not pleasant also to you not on the way. Also would go the own way. And you put on a cap its figure and begin to besiege it. To explain, prove, convince. You lose self-esteem (psikhzashchita do not save from it, on the contrary help to lose quicker self-esteem), you behave busily and cause more and more irritation. Your importance could rise, leave alone you in time, but you do not lag behind and it falls below and below. And the importance of the person for you rises above and above because though and it seems to you that he is a gnome, you besiege it and drive around it round dances, you spend for it the sea of the energy. And he hides from you.

Here that happens because of a habit to consider others gnomes.

So stupid Silly fellows meet that they should chew literally everything, to hammer into the head, to repeat many times, more and more.

The such man is nastier to the woman, the cap is required more. She responded to the tenth message with a mat? Its vulnerability means it is really big.

Not only women, but also men like to get on such cap on a figure of the person interesting by it.

The silly fellow, Stesnyash and Bednyash, you remember?

Except respect for the person you need still self-esteem. You lack it too critically if you put on the second a foolish cap.

If this subject interested, surely read also new article which appeared after this & #8212; & #171; Giant and лилипуты»

How still to explain lack of its activity? Unless it is possible to assume that it not really is pleasant to it? No, it is absurd option. Anything, but only not it.

And further also the third gnome can appear. Bednyasha. However, they can appear in any order and even at the same time all.

The man met the woman, overslept, and she was insufficiently hospitable and thinks that he was upset. And differently how to explain its cold next day?

For Silly fellows intellectual inferiority is always supposed and it is obligatory & #8212; emotional dullness. The silly fellow it is near, but also is not capable to understand emotions of other people, for example yours. Therefore he should be told in details how its act looks and that you felt as a result of its act. It is necessary to accent on the pain, to describe the pain, to repeat. Having learned about it the Silly fellow will be surprised and will think. And then will change the behavior. He also did not assume that he made. He as the three-year-old child needs the tutor who will intelligibly and patiently explain to him that it is good and that it is bad.

And so crowns and caps are necessary to suppress from themselves the fact of the verbal aggression, to hide the fact of violation of others borders. We raise the figure by means of a crown, we lower others crown by means of a gnomy cap, and voila, already the part of the territory belongs to us kind of by right (in our representation).

He is a fool, he is a wolf cub, it as the woman. Perhaps at it even two X a chromosome, so is that in appearance the man, and at the level of chromosomes a hitch. Therefore men's hormones are not enough. And also there was no normal father. Therefore he is also not aware that the man has to behave actively and passionately. And so would conduct. If knew and was able. And if believed in himself. In the active machismo.

The figure it is necessary to put on a crown (to present itself powerful and considerable), and a figure of the person & #8212; a foolish cap (to present it silly and dependent) and then already from height of the greatness, considering lameness of the second, to help it to give you what wants to be taken.

& #171; Well you, hide? I will not offend you, & #8212; such man speaks to the woman to whom he is not necessary and she allowed to understand. & #8212; I did not want to offend you the offer at all. You are pleasant to me, I want to recognize you closer, to stay with you наедине».

Saw in letters hundred times, probably.

So, caps of gnomes.

It has very interesting articles and about crowns (psychoprotection own), and about bugs of communication and other bugs.

Men like to put Bednyash caps on women too.

Here, as a post about psychoprotection concerning other people. Still I do it because it has more than 2000 posts at the moment, and not everyone is called clear, daily it does 2-3 posts, the tape quickly goes down. The person who for the first time visited the website or long did not come, can not see and will not understand that article under the name & #171; √номы» really important.

Give examples of caps. Each cap, from life, letters or cinema. It is possible to model situations.

When there is a wish to receive something from the person, and he does not give (usually love, recognition, approval, respect, generally food for a self-assessment), it is necessary from him somehow to take for what crowns and caps are used.

The silly fellow there is every time when there is not enough crown of the Treasure or a crown of the Winner to explain itself behavior of the partner.

Let's try to differentiate. And later I will show letters where because of caps Silly fellows, Stesnyasha and Bednyasha, people for many years get stuck in a Gestalt.

Do you know how happens, huh?

Especially it concerns & #171; womanly мужчин». They are capricious eternally, so their mother brought up. If they live in Gayrope, know what there customs, there all men as women, and slightly that snivels are chewed. With them it is necessary to be active, generous, not to ask superfluous to invest more often. Then they will open the shell and will trust in you. But it is necessary to prove them the reliability.

Letter 1 Letter 2

We too many times saw Stesnyasha in letters. Especially in her female letters there is a lot of.

Bednyasha & #8212; it when the person understands that he you not against, knows already what you want, but does not do because it is offended by you. Or not on you, and on yours. Bednyasha & #8212; it something like a nedolyublenny wolf cub, but is not so global. He is simply upset with something, some your or act, it should be calmed and returned to it courage.

Gnomes, to be exact caps of gnomes, it is such psikhzashchita which people use to explain themselves indifference of the partner.

Below & #8212; article & #171; √номы». Author & #8212; Marina Komissarova (Evolution) of https://evo-lutio.livejournal.com/591726.htmlpo to the reference to the source in comments usually too is a lot of interesting.

Why it becomes?

After Stesnyasha quite often appears the Silly fellow. The uncertainty of the person is seemingly dispelled by your persistent attacks, but there was a misunderstanding what you want and why. It is necessary to explain the Silly fellow.

Why he (she) does not answer? Probably does not understand that you wait for the answer to a question. It is necessary to write after a question: & #171; It would be desirable to receive ответ». Then a little later: & #171; Answer if not затруднит». Then still later: & #171; I still wait ответа».

For what all these designations & #171 are necessary; короны» & #171; caps гномов»?

And if it works, give also examples when similar support by caps is not. It is necessary to distinguish cases when explanations and when is not present at all really are required for the person. In what a difference?

There are still boundary bugs. These are, actually, those ways which of the person take nishtyak (torment tools). This everything: Teacher, Navigator, Beggar, Upstart & #8212; all this ways which you interfere in borders of other person that it is a little to otozhrat from him. People with boundary bugs are called & #171; badly воспитанными». It is brought badly up & #8212; it means has bad borders, climbs on others territory, brings others discomfort and irritates with claims. Boundary bugs & #8212; type of verbal aggression. Stickiness, persistence and familiarity. The clanking mouth.

You see, about what there is a speech?

But especially women like to use caps. Especially Stesnyash caps. But also Silly fellow, and Bednyash too.

Stesnyasha unlike Silly fellows understands how it is necessary. But cannot. Because quails. He is not confident that you need its investments therefore it also does not invest. He is a diffident gnome, his self-assessment is low, especially when he looks from below at greatness of your crown. Therefore he needs to be supported, encouraged and pushed to active behavior. He wants, but is silent. It is necessary to explain that you not against that its investments are pleasant to you.

No and why to think of itself bad? For example, that you are not necessary to it. What for? It is better to think that he is an idiot.

It is other imagined defect with which you allocate those who do not what you want.

& #171; I called and told that everything very much was pleasant to me. He answered that he was glad to meet too. I told that not bad to repeat everything. He agreed. I told that I will be free all week, he kept silent. Next day I sent the reference to Yandex the Poster, having shown that at movie theater there is a movie which we discussed. It did not open my message. I called back, he did not take the call. I made something not so? & #187;.

& #171; You Understand, it was unpleasant to me when you flirted with my friend. He could think that you are a thoughtless girl that you trifle with me. You do not represent how it looks from outside. Maybe you think that my friend did not notice how it is close you to him bent? For certain noticed. And other people at a table noticed how you embraced it. It was unpleasant to me, I felt such unnecessary. I do not know how to explain it to you. If you appeared on my place, you would understand why to me was непри¤тно».

Silly fellow & #8212; this is such gnome who would like to give you everything what you want, I would be glad to you to be useful, to do a favor, please. But, unfortunately, does not understand what it is necessary to you. And he should explain. To din.

And recently there were two more very interesting articles entirely devoted to this question:

People are not sillier than you, not more weakly and do not need your shturmanstvo. They are estimable and with their borders it is worth behaving is affable. He is affable & #8212; it means to grant him the right to dispose of the fact that it they think what they want as they will arrive. It is not your territory, this is not your vassal and even not your child, this is the certain adult whose importance for own life is maximum, and yours, on the contrary, is minimum. If your importance is high and importance is high, you surely learn about it, from you it will not be hidden. For now you on the importance somewhere around a plinth, the person also does not hurry to take to you any steps or to answer your steps. It does not need it. He is not a gnome, he looks at you not from below. Perhaps even from above looks if you so want from it steps, and it does not do them. Most likely you already in minus if so desperately you need it, and it in plus if hesitates.

There is still Stesnyasha's cap.

Pay attention that on anybody foolish caps did not seem, the priori respect for people is necessary.

Suddenly it is not aware of people that, having asked a question, you expect to receive the answer? No, well any silly fellows are, and such too. It not the telepathist, except a question it still needs to designate your desire of dialogue, and then to remind that all of you did not forget about it yet and are ready to accept from it explanations.

About Stesnyash's bugs and other she already wrote in excellent article & #171 before; How to take off blinders иллюзий»

Foolish caps appear when you were tired to wait that you will be fed. You were tired to wait and want to break on others territory with nippers, forks and serving spoons. And the self-esteem has to tell you that nippers & #8212; it is humiliating. It is impossible to be the beggar, even in shape of the terrible navigator, especially in shape of the navigator. It is impossible to wait and demand from the person what he does not want to give you. It is necessary just to reconcile to its will and to feed itself. To get to itself energy for life, not to pull from the person who is not interested in exchange.

Most often the Silly fellow it is necessary not just to remind of your desires, but also to explain all nuances. From here long explanatory texts are born. And serial letters from minus.

Approximately then why people put on crowns.

It is necessary to see a psikhzashchita and a bug in order that to get rid of them. Such practice allows to create good borders and to make a self-assessment adequate and steady. To call the demon & #8212; it means him to win. So exorcists spoke. Approximately also psychologists speak. To designate the psychological phenomenon, to characterize it and to separate from other phenomena & #8212; it means to have an opportunity to work with it. We are also engaged in this.