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Crisis of middle age before recent time was considered as especially men's issue. The essence of such gender division was that "male" was considered as the chief getter and a support of family. In the modern emancipated society this syndrome is characteristic also of women. it is extremely important to p to try to inspire

in the person that by the time of approach of this period he achieved considerable and to force it to appreciate the passable stages.

As men always set before themselves definite purposes, such devastation can provide them a serious psychological shake-up. Your task - to support it, to help it to endure this hard period, to encourage the fact that it for you - the best and chosen how there were circumstances in its professional field.

How it is possible to endure crisis of middle age at women? Certainly, if you have dear and close people who can support you - it is very good. But what to do if it is necessary to deal with the problem alone? Do you think that one in the field - not the soldier? Kind of not so! Just begin a way to comprehension of and reconciliation with by itself. At this stage you need to achieve rational knowledge of yourself and the essence.

And only in this case you not only will find glory of the ideal wife, but also will be able to help darling to have hard time in his life. The main thing that all your laudatory odes and dithyrambs did not give barefaced flattery, sarcasm or outright exaggeration.

We understood how it is correct to help the man to endure crisis of middle age. And now let's take care of ourselves as this syndrome can be knocked absolutely unexpectedly and in our measured and quiet life.

At the age of 35-40 years of the lady desperately want to give birth to the child (even if it has them already three).

Therefore both manifestations, and symptoms, and transferring of crisis of middle age are absolutely unlike at representatives of a different floor.

But as modern society dictates own rules and charters, the double blow - assessment of progress both in personal, and in professional life falls upon brittle female shoulders. No wonder that the weaker sex transfers this stage even more sharply now, than strong.

We can put end of preliminary vital results too sooner or later. But in our case it almost is never connected with ordinary career achievements.

But once you look at a notorious medal from a reverse side, everything changes magically, and life begins to buy new paints.

Such concept as crisis of middle age, has essentially different nature at women and men.

How to help itself independently?

Symptoms of crisis of middle age can gradually be shown, and can suddenly "roll", without any external irritants or the objective reasons. But the essence is always identical - small discontent and a burden of monotonous life are saved in human consciousness, sooner or later being splashed out outside with a psychological negative.

That is, your man can accurately (though sometimes and in a false manner) to understand that further he has no place to move, he reached everything that could and wanted, and now at him both desire, and motivation, and, actually, an opportunity was gone.

How it is easy to endure crisis of middle age at men? First of all, it is important to know its true motives and the background. By 35-40 years the vast majority of men are exposed to a terrible stress and a condition of long apathy, and at times even fall into a natural depression.

Certain men come to revaluation of values, begin to pay more attention to children and the spouse, find for themselves a new hobby and begin to rejoice more to free time.

Do you remember how the hero of the famous melodrama "Moscow Does Not Trust Tears" said that after 40 life only begins, and young little girls laughed loudly and told something about old women? Soon you will feel the truth of his words!

In fact, age crisis is characteristic of everyone, whether it be the three-year-old or seven-year-old kid, the rebellious teenager, or the adult are more senior than 35 years. In any of these cases, the personality comes to a conclusion that she cannot live as lived before and that last behavior model / lives for it is from now on unacceptable and destructive in essence.

The same purposes are minor for the average man: kind of well to him was at home, and whatever beautiful children at him grew, he will always seek for achievement of especially material success as such is its nature. Not without reason he was considered as a getter since a primitive-communal system!

To endure crisis of middle age for the woman happens not so simply.

Position of your beloved husband can be heavier if he realizes that to it any more never to achieve goals owing to age, employment and other factors. In this case the man can feel a deep psychoemotional shock.

Also it is connected with anything other, as with unrealized ambitions. And it can concern even quite successful representative of an opposite sex. This effect is called "effect of achievement of a ceiling in career".

You have to admire it, thank for everything that he made, to encourage and inspire on new progress.

Crisis of middle age at women is connected rather with changes of a hormonal background and understanding that the fertility cycle just about will approach the expedient end. In other words, the woman understands that she will soon not be any more capable to reproduce posterity on light. Therefore this syndrome at us is connected with assessment of a condition of private and family life.

Let your sincere harmony will not be broken by any psychological term!

The best exit from such state - statement essentially other, new purposes on the future. Some suddenly change career, others remember an unfulfilled youthful dream, the third try to vanish due to receiving new impressions.

Motives for such behavior and attitude also in a root differs. And this results from the fact that at the stronger and weaker sex a priori different "fatal" installations. Despite of universal promotion of feminism, the average woman still seeks to give birth to children and to equip life in joint life with the partner.

As during this period of life at your husband the feeling of self-esteem will be dulled, it is important to give it other respect, from the outside.