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If you bring up the teenager, then know how difficult happens to involve him in study. Most of them does not need that to them helped to go shopping, to play at the computer or to communicate with friends. But when business concerns performance of school homeworks, your push to study just and will define a difference between the excellent student and the lagging behind child. We offer you several ways how to force the teenager to study.

Explain

that it is possible to be "abrupt" and at the same time to have high point in school objects. Tell stories of the acquaintances as they coped with study when they were school students. If you have no suitable examples, remember yourself and the problems.

Teenagers are very sensitive concerning remarks and criticism. To convince the teenager to study, control of parents is necessary, but it can be conducted differently. Test positive technology of control.

If your son or the daughter work at the computer, be convinced that they do not "hang" on the Internet instead of studying. Warn that you will check the history of viewings in the Internet the browser from time to time, explain that you are not going to deprive of them private life and leisure, and only you want to help not to become dependent from communication online.

Direct efforts to helping the child to overcome with themselves a negative factor which does not allow it to achieve success at school.

Discuss together what will happen in the future if not to undertake education right now. Apply individual approach: the uncontrollable difficult teenager can be intimidated stories about special schools and boarding schools, and vulnerable (not revolting, and suppressed by the failures at school) it is better to support and adjust on a positive supposedly everything will turn out, but it is necessary to try.

How still to help the teenager to study well? Sometimes they fall into a state in which they just lack energy, a push to get down to business. And you will be such push: tenderly and kindly, but persistently you can send the son or the daughter at a table, to bring he (she) a backpack with textbooks, to ask to begin to learn lessons immediately.

How to learn why your teenager does not want to study? There are many reasons for which he or she postpone performance of homeworks and ignore requirements of teachers. Perhaps, another matters take away all the time?

You can get a valuable advice if address the teacher who is well knowing the pupil and his weaknesses:

Share own experience and feelings which you then had. It will give support to your child and will help it to perceive you not as "annoying adult" and as the friend and a soulmate. The emotional proximity with family members is very important for support.

In the same way if the son reported that the important test at school failed, collect all the patience not to abuse it, but at the same time you can state by a quiet voice that are dissatisfied with this result (but not the son). It will create healthier atmosphere in family and uberezhyot your relations with children from the conflicts and quarrels.

Do not irritate with councils, do not criticize, just adhere to simple instructions: "begin right now", "open the book and read", "your table waits for you" and other. Refuse reading moraly and mandative tone - it always causes only a protest.

It seems too simple and obvious step, but in many families such pushes help children to achieve the best results at school.

Do not become personal, do not make scandal if children break your bans (and they will break them!), just warn that you will block access to their favourite websites or the Internet connection, and be not afraid to make it in fact if your rules are ignored.

Communication in social networks and a sit-round gathering with friends is good moderately. Or the child was captured by video games? What it was if to you it is clear where time and attention leaves, it will already facilitate to you work how to convince your teenager to study.

If it is necessary to get into a dispute, you do not press the authority ("I am more senior and better I know"), you do not pass to shout, and use tactics of "brainstorming" when it is authorized to each of opponents to introduce any ideas on a subject without fear to receive criticism in the address. Your child argues? - Perfectly! Only let adduces arguments, but does not express offenses and whims.

For certain your children have schoolmates to whom to spit on rules, their future and whether homework is performed or not. Their influence cannot be underestimated - children too quickly adopt a bad example, especially if you want to seem "" in the company of peers. The teenager does not want to study because it "not abruptly"?

The revolt and a depression equally badly affect study, but have absolutely different roots, and it is necessary to communicate, considering this difference. Having despaired to set the child, you can give in to thoughts, where to send to study the difficult teenager, but know - it is extreme measures for children from dysfunctional families.

Remember that trusting relationship plays a huge role in education, create such atmosphere when you trust the child, but at the same time take a strict position - if your trust is deceived, the teenager has to understand that it is only his wine.

As good mother, you have to know, than interest the daughter or the son. At the beginning you can observe, but not interfere in private life of the teenager, do not use shadowing and verification of accounts, the smartphone and other. However you have the right to ask, where and with whom the child spends time and also to limit its leisure.

When you see that the son is busy with the correct affairs, tries, is built and persistent on occupations, receives good result - surely state approval in the correct form. It means that you should praise actions, but not the person.

It is better to bridle a negative independently, than to recognize the defeat and to send the child to a boarding school. At least, you have to know precisely that you did everything possible.

Stop attempts to cause in you sense of guilt and call for normal and constructive dialogue, then at you everything will turn out.

In some situations the much bigger value is gained by emotional factors. One of ways how to interest the teenager in study, consists in increase in motivation. It is work, worthy the real psychologist, but good parents will cope also with it.